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husky51
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foreignfilmfreak
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I understand that too, Roar.  I've gone to many funerals, but I never cried. Some sentiments, like songs and certain things, from funerals do continue to remain with me, and make me wish I actually felt sadness at the time without regretting it later that I didn't.
Except I am quite emotional, so it's strange for me. It's alright though, if you feel unable to. When I heard about the passing of an old and close friend of mine, I was unable to cry. I was unable to feel sad even as the memories all came back to me. And I hated it and felt frustrated. It'll pass.
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I think often in life you don't feel the way you're supposed to, or at least at the time you're supposed to. Human emotions are rarely that conveniant.
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I have been happy when certain close relatives died because their lives, by that stage, were simply miserable.
Euthenasia can be a good thing.
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husky51
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foreignfilmfreak
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WeirdLight: So my aunt and uncle supposedly gave up their tickets we bought them for a concert and my boyfriend and I took them.
Anyhow, my mom said we'll use them, but my dad just called them and apparently my uncle, his daughter and her friend are going. :/
... I don't know if this means we have to give back our tickets. My boyfriend was ecstatic. I told my dad that, and he called anyhow to make sure. I was like "Uh, but mom already straightened it out and I was getting the tickets..?". I don't even care about me going, but he was so happy to be going that it made me want to go too.
Mom will probably be mad if they come asking for the tickets when everything was settled and she couldn't even get a hold of them. >.<; My sister thought it was weird too, for my father to do that. We'd already made all the plans, and his mother even let him go.
LL: Now my elation and vigour has been wiped away. :/ It was going to be my first overnight trip with my boyfriend too. I was honestly surprised my mother said he could stay with us.
I hope we'll still be able to go. My dad makes it sound like he didn't want us to go to begin with. He's not making anything better, only worse, and now I'm the one left to contact my mom. It's her birthday, I don't think he even wished her happy birthday or got her anything..
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captain george
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Sorry about the news Roar
Both of my grandparents are depressed, their lives are more an existence than anything, so i won't mourn their deaths when it eventually comes round. i never like losing someone close though, so i know how crappy it must feel right now :/
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i think the relation between grandparents is a little bit different in other countries. in south asia it is very very close. i was practically raised by my grandparents( both from father and mothers side). i loved them So much that loosing them is not very less than loosing my parents.
and roar and other who dont get upset and feel frustrated about it should know that human emotions are not bound to the person. But you should consider thinking if there is any barrier(mental) that causes you to not cry. in that case i would say just let it(your mind) go. dont always push it to behave a certain way. cause that is not your real self.
i just feel glad that upto this point the grandparents in my country are very happy by the grace of allah. they live their life parenting their children and grandchildren. as my father's mom and dad are not in this world, he often says he is an orphan there is no shelter covering himself. Actually that is quite true it is really very comforting to have our parents covering us.
so i feel particularly angry to those childrens who throw their parents into the old homes. they are to be cursed.
allah says the child who could not offer help ,kindness and care to their old parents is the most unlucky child.
by this verse allah wants to say it is mandatory for every child to look after his parents at their old age.
alas !!! what we are doing in real life. if we are not to be cursed by allah,who will be?
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husky51
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quote:
Originally posted by husky51
hahaha, we have a standing joke in my family. My sons say I gotta be nice to them because THEY decide which old age home I end up getting sent to... lol
My brother say the same joke for our parents lol
But I also feel angry to those who send their parents to the old homes, they took care of you for many years, you have to do the same when they need. Here the old homes are always needing donations because they don't even have the basics to live comfortable :/
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My cousins always tell my grandma to be good because they decide which home she'll go to. D: >.<
It's also a running joke in my family, but my aunt was so hurt when her kids told her that, I would never tell my mother that. Heck, I wouldn't put my parents in a home unless I ultimately really had to. If I'm not in the country, my sister would have to care for them, and I think she would if she can in the future.
My boyfriend is very close with his mother's parents. I'm hoping I can see them on Skype sometime if our time differences don't interfere (he usually does after 9 PM our time since it's morning over there). He isn't very close with anyone on his dad's side, sadly, not even his grandparents.
HL: Trip, preparing for my trip~.
I'm starting to realize I'm very snippy lately regarding my attitude. I don't like it when people talk to me, even close people, or being touched. o.O; I wonder what's wrong and why I'm acting this way? Must be emotions.
My little Totoro collection is so cute. ^^
LL: I gotta wait for my boyfriend to get back home before we can leave. o.e His mom made him drive up to the city to go cancel something before we leave.
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Ah, I have a hugely different opinion in terms of homes. Right now I only have one grandparent, my maternal grandmother who lives a few minutes away, as does my mum's only sibling - our aunt. I love my grandmother, but unfortunately in the past few years she has suffered a series of health problems as well as increasingly intense dementia. She cannot remember previous conversations - she asks you the same thing five minutes later, she can barely remember who I am or properly recognise me and she doesn't ever really understand what's going on. Her dog died several months ago and she keeps telling everybody how her dog died 'yesterday'. It's really severe. Dementia is an extremely tiring, agravating illness to be around - it makes spending great lengths of time with my grandmother pretty unpleasant which is upsetting because obviously I only want to think of her fondly.
Currently she lives home alone but has carers come in three times a day to do meals and such, a volunteer who takes her out, and my aunt and my mum and my cousins etc. and myself see her fairly regularly. I'm going to go stay with her tomorrow night for example. However, as it is we are going to have to move her into a home fairly soon. Both my mother and my aunt work full time, have small homes and frankly cannot face constantly caring for somebody in that state.
So yeah I think if your grandparent is still fairly healthy and mentally capable and you have the house space for them than obviously it would be great to care for them, but I don't think it is always that viable an option.
HL: Went shopping today~ Bought an extremely cute LBD and various other bits and bobs. Looking forward to dressing up thursday - I'm going out with a few friends, since one of them is turning 18, and it will be my first time I'll be running into my ex since we broke up which should be...interesting.
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husky51
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Hey, his loss.....
I agree with you about the home thing. When mental and physical reasons come into play, I personally think that it is unfair to force yourself on your kids simply because they are your kids. Not everyone can cope with problems like that. I've been in enough nursing homes while inspecting their transportation equipment, etc that I hope that I never have to go into one, but if I must, then so be it...
At least I know beforehand that my family does love me and wouldn't do it unless necessary, which I might not understand if it happens...
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My son and dau-in-law just came from the court where they were trying to get custody of her daughter and failed. From what I heard the father was a real schmuck and tried bringing up all kinds of crap about the cruelty, and unfitness of my son, etc. This from a guy that doesn't and hasn't held a job since the kid was born over 5 yrs ago, lives with mommy and daddy (who watch the kid) does small jobs to get money for his "habits". There is a lot about this that is too long to go into so you'll just have to take my word for it that the child would have been better off with my son, etc...
sad... 
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Sorry to hear that Husky... that doesn't seem to make any sense.
HL: Aaahh, such a super day. Went into town with dad this morning and he got me a couple of early birthday presents, then in the afternoon, I went to the transgender support group my local LGBT centre runs, for the first time. That was amazing. I was nervous but everyone was so nice, and for the first time I got to introduce myself by my new name. That felt really, really great to get called that the whole time. That makes the first people ever who'll never have known me as anything else...
LL: Nothin'. 
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Roarkiller
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quote:
Originally posted by Kazegami
Sorry to hear that Husky... that doesn't seem to make any sense.
I'll have to agree, in a manner of speaking. Jumping from second-person to third person, I can't make head or tail who exactly are involved in the situation.  Does it involve your son's incompetence, or someone else's?
HL: Nice email from the mom of a local pokemon player, said her son had read my articles and liked them  Feels good to be appreciated.
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saviour2012
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quote:
Originally posted by Roarkiller
HL: Nice email from the mom of a local pokemon player
What!!!!!!!
is there really pokemons!!!!!!!!
Laughing out and thinking if it was really laughable.
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Ask, think and learn. Because the more we know the more we grow.
Watching the wrong to happen is the same as commiting the wrong.
If it looks like things are forcing you to be creative, Then be creative.
its a uniquely Miyazaki film, one only he could make and its uniqueness places it beyond being easily critiqued.[About Porco Rosso]
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captain george
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quote:
Originally posted by saviour2012
What!!!!!!!
is there really pokemons!!!!!!!!
Getting ready for going to London with scouts, just 12 days to go 
Been watching a lot of GAA recently, always a highlight of the Summer.
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| 07.08.2012, 10:50 AM |
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husky51
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quote:
Originally posted by Roarkiller
quote:
Originally posted by Kazegami
Sorry to hear that Husky... that doesn't seem to make any sense.
I'll have to agree, in a manner of speaking. Jumping from second-person to third person, I can't make head or tail who exactly are involved in the situation. Does it involve your son's incompetence, or someone else's?
Basically, when E. (girl)was born to A. (girl's mother), A. was going out with M.(girl's father). At the time of their separation, A. was financially unable to care for E. and so M. was given custody of E. He, with much help from his mom, took care of E. When A. was going out with my son, M. tried many times and ways to break them up including restraining orders, abuse filings, etc. All of which were disallowed by the courts. Now that my son and A. are married and doing much better, they decided to try and get E. because they wanted her to be with her new brother and step-sister among other reasons.
Unfortunately, the woman appointed to examine the home and background of A. seemed to be on the side of M. instead of being impartial. She insisted on seeing the documents of hospitalization for mental problems about A. which do not exist because there has never been a problem and the woman put down in her report that A. was uncooperative, etc. This is just one of a number of different things that this woman has done.
Unfortunately, while disallowing much of her report, the judge decided that since there was no proof either way that he would continue with M.s physical custody of E. There is a lot more that I left out...
They will try again in the future only this time with a family-law lawyer which they couldn't afford this time.
BTW, M., who lives at home, is a musician who spends much of his time away from home leaving mom to care for E., but A. couldn't prove this...
visitation rights were upheld though...
another BTW. My son and A. had to pay for this woman's services (even tho court appointed) because they were the ones that filed for custody changes...
Each of two visits cost them $750... mainly because of travel time at $100 per hour...3 hrs each way.
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I used to get $100 an hour as an accident investigator, including travel time. One time I spent twenty minutes testifying in court and got over $400... Did some work for the State of California (mostly reading witness statements) and got $1500... Had to go to a regular job tho, not enough business... sigh... lol
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quote:
Originally posted by husky51
Basically, when E. (girl)was born to A. (girl's mother), A. was going out with M.(girl's father). At the time of their separation, A. was financially unable to care for E. and so M. was given custody of E. He, with much help from his mom, took care of E. When A. was going out with my son, M. tried many times and ways to break them up
Super duper ultra like ( for explaining it like math not for anyother thing)
i feel sorry for you. the girl could atleast have a grandfather like you.
dont know why but i understood this thing from the first look at huskys post.(has my english knowledge improved that much)
maybe my university lessons giving me some support or it also may be because of my superior sense(!!!) to understand
social problems.(you know my sense about women equality and gay rights etc. Dont worry i will be back on those threads)
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Watch everything but only take the good things from it
Ask, think and learn. Because the more we know the more we grow.
Watching the wrong to happen is the same as commiting the wrong.
If it looks like things are forcing you to be creative, Then be creative.
its a uniquely Miyazaki film, one only he could make and its uniqueness places it beyond being easily critiqued.[About Porco Rosso]
taken from a quote of Saddletank and Orphic Okapi
Post last edited by saviour2012 on 07.08.2012, 03:09 PM.
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